Wednesday, November 25, 2015

fall go-to outfit #6 - poncho sweater

 First, I've been posting some "fall go-to" outfits but now I'm wondering: when does fashion transition from fall to winter?

Is it temperature based? When there's snow on the ground? A certain date?

Well, I don't know the answer but we'll keep this a fall outfit for now... stay-tuned for some winter "go-tos" cause, you know, I'm fancy like that.

Let me tell you about this outfit. Sometimes I struggle to get dressed. Okay, I struggle on the regular. I have a closet full of clothes but given my often sleep-deprived state, I'm not always able to get dressed quickly. I regularly stand in the doorway of my closet and stare into the abyss that is my closet. I stare and think "I have nothing to wear". ANYWAYS, on this day, I just wanted to be warm. I pulled this ponchy-ish sweater I've had for years and paired it with a red long-sleeved tee. Throw on some jeans, boots, red lipstick and I'm ready to take on the world. And by 'world', I mean a 2.5 year old and 4 month old (same difference, right?!).

poncho sweater

poncho sweater + red long-sleeve t-shirt +  dark skinny jeans + black booties + red lips  = warm and fun fall shopping outfit

poncho sweater and jeans

wearing red lipstick and poncho sweater

Wanna know a secret? Lipstick freaks me out BUT I find it so much fun to wear. I feel like I can get away with only mascara if I put on some red lipstick. Added bonus: mascara and lipstick is like the quickest make-up routine EVER! Pretty much awesome if you're a mom on the run or otherwise have no time. It proved to be the perfect accessory for this outfit!! 

Are you loving the poncho this fall?

Don't forget, Winter Style Challenge registration closes this Friday!! Get in while you still can!!

Related Posts:
fall go-to outfit #1- chambray and tee
fall go-to outfit #2 - plaid 
fall go-to outfit #3 - more plaid
fall go-to outfit #4 - plaid dress
fall go-to outfit #5 -cozy layers

Link ups:
The Pleated Poppy
Pumps and Pushups
Pampers and Pearls
Tucker Up
The Mummy Chronicles
Cappuccino and Fashion 
Shopping My Closet

Monday, November 23, 2015

why mothers don't sleep: random thoughts and achy boobs

Little man normally wakes up regularly to eat (like every 2 hours). I'd like to be thankful when he sleeps in long stretches but instead, I don't sleep for other reasons. Here's kind of how it goes in my head:

wakes suddenly

He isn't up yet? What time is it?

What if he woke up and I slept right through it?

checks time on phone

WHOA. It's 4:10am. He went down at 7pm. That can't be right.

WHAT is that pain in my boob? Too long with no feeding. Wow that hurts.

glances at video monitor

Is he breathing? I don't think he's breathing,

quickly grab monitor for closer inspection

Wow that hurt. My chest is on fire.

Oh god, I seriously don't think he's breathing. He's not moving. not even a little. I should go in there.

No, don't go in there, don't wake a sleeping baby.

But, what if he's not breathing?

What if I went back to sleep and he really wasn't breathing?

Geez, he kicked his blankets off, he's probably cold. I should really go in there.

goes to baby's room, dutifully checks breathing (all good) and covers with blanket

Good, he's okay. Seriously, though, my boobs are killing me. Should I pump? Ugh, It's all the way downstairs. No, go back to sleep.

Oh he's stirring. Shit. I woke him up. Oh wait, no he's gone back to sleep.

He kicked the blanket off again. He's going to freeze.

Maybe I should just feed him quick? I can't sleep with my boobs aching like this. Plus, he's got to be hungry.

I'm hungry.

feeds baby and puts back in crib

Is that him crying? It's only 6am.

Why doesn't my baby sleep? I'm so tired.

Friday, November 20, 2015

Winter Style Challenge - sign up NOW!!!

The Fall Style Challenge has come and gone. If you've been liking my "go-to" styles for this fall then it's only fair I tell you that some of them were definitely inspired by the Fall Style Challenge.

Well, fear not, you may have missed the Fall Challenge, but registration for the Winter Style Challenge is NOW OPEN!!!

I'm excited about the upcoming Winter Style Challenge because my sweet baby boy is going through a sleep regression AND teething and it'll be perfect timing to have someone tell me how to dress myself on the daily.

Also, Alison has some awesome changes this time around.
What's new? I'll tell you:

  1. There will be a 'dress it up and dress it down' option for EVERY outfit!! This is perfect for both working women or stay at home moms.
  2. There will be 3 outfits perfect for holiday parties.
  3. There will be two surprise outfits. 
  4. 26 total outfits this time around (compared to the usual 21). 
  5. Several pieces from challenges past will be reused. SOOOOO if you've participated before and were on the fence or don't want to spend a ton, no reason not to now! 
Then there's the usual: sign up, shopping list gets emailed right away, you belong to an amazingly supportive Facebook group of challenge participants (seriously, that's the best part) and when the challenge starts, you get an email every night telling you what to wear the next day.

  • Early Bird Registration Opens:  11/20 
  • Early Bird Registration Closes:  11/27 at midnight ET
  • First Outfit Release:  12/13

Is there a better gift to give yourself this holiday season? I think not!

Sign up and join me in the fun. xo

**this post contains affiliate links, if you sing up for a Style Challenge I will receive compensation (which is used to support my Style Challenge addiction :) Please know I would not, in any way, endorse this program if I didn't absolutely love it and think you would too!**

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

fall go-to #5 - cozy layers

I'm back with another fall go-to outfit!

It's starting to get chilly here which means the layers are coming out! A lot of people dread this weather but I kind of love it (until the snow hits).

Here's my cozy fall go-to outfit:

chambray + beige sweater + plaid scarf + black jeans + cognac boots = cozy fall go-to outfit 

black jeans chambray

Maurices chambray shirt, 52 CAD / Knit cardigan, 27 CAD / River Island black skinny jeans, 160 CAD / MICHAEL Michael Kors leather boots, 390 CAD / Monsoon crossbody purse, 90 CAD / Plaid shawl, 34 CAD

I love this outfit for being out and about running errands with the kiddos! It's perfect because if I get too warm, I can easily take off a layer. 

What pieces do you love layering in the fall?

Related Posts:
fall go-to outfit #1- chambray and tee
fall go-to outfit #2 - plaid 
fall go-to outfit #3 - more plaid
fall go-to outfit #4 - plaid dress

Link ups:
The Pleated Poppy
Pumps and Pushups
Pampers and Pearls
Tucker Up
The Mummy Chronicles
Cappuccino and Fashion 

Shopping My Closet

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

hate is not the answer

I wanted to write something about Paris. I stared at a blank screen not able to adequately capture all of the thoughts and emotions  I have been having. Unable to come up with any words that hadn't already been said, I remained silent.

Today, I cannot contain my silence. Today, I cannot hold my tongue another minute. Today, I need to write.

I am afraid. I am so afraid that I have an uneasy and lingering feeling in my stomach. It won't go away. So I write.

You might think, initially, that I fear we will be next. You might think I am afraid that we too shall be victim of a horrendous act of terrorism. Yes, those fears have entered my mind and remained there; however, that is not my greatest fear and that is not the current reality I am being faced with.

In the minutes, hours and days following the attack on Paris I have been witness to many things. I have seen some truly beautiful posts expressing condolences and strength. I have also been made aware how oblivious I am about other events that have been going on around the world. Other lives that have been lost due to senseless acts of violence. I have also been witness to racism and hatred, to crimes committed against innocents whose only sin was 'looking like a terrorist'.

The events that took place in Paris evoke a sense of fear in us unlike others because who doesn't love Paris? What American or Canadian can't imagine a trip to Paris? Or at least, who can't imagine themselves being at a concert hall rocking out to their favorite band? Or in a coffee house having a late night cappuccino? Or in a bar, having a few pints? That's much easier to relate to than imaging what it would be like getting on a boat in the middle of the ocean bound for anywhere but where you are. Most of us can't relate to the refugees fleeing from a war-torn country because that is so far outside of our current reality.

I am so sad. I am so sad and so disgusted by what is happening. My news feed is filled with messages of hate, of condemning entire religions and cultures and pictures of children, beautiful children, with nowhere to go that is safe. In my own province a Muslim woman was attacked while picking her children up from school for no other reason than the hijab she wore. She was called a terrorist and told to 'go home'. A mosque was set a blaze in Peterborough, incidents of anti-Muslim graffiti too numerous to count and a picture of a young man taking a selfie with his ipad was photo-shopped into a picture of a suicide vest wearing Quran-yielding terrorist and spread like wildfire on the internet.

I am at a loss that the response to fear has been one filled with hatred and violence. I am ashamed that, as fellow human beings, people seem to be unable to find the ability to distinguish because terrorists and all Muslim people. I fail to understand how all Muslim people (and for the record, there are 1.57 billion Muslim people on this planet - the population of Canada a mere 35 million) can be grouped as terrorists and condemned to the same fate one might wish upon a suicide bomber.

Neither my heart nor my head can comprehend how people can look at a Syrian refugee, a child, and argue that we have no room for 'those terrorists' here. Those refugees who are only fleeing the exact same thing that has us all so wrought with fear and hatred.

I do not know what the answer is but I know it isn't hate. I do not know how to stop terrorism but I know it is not with violence. That is what the real terrorists want. They want us to ostracize an entire group of people and to leave them in fear and fleeing our hate and violence so that the only place they have to go is the one place they have run from.

When you spread hate, you are not helping the problem. When you group entire factions of people together, you are not helping the problem. When you commit acts of violence against innocent people, you are not helping the problem. When you deny people, human beings, the right to a life free from fear and violence simply because of where they come from, you are NOT helping the problem.

Let us be rational. Let us not make decisions out of fear. Let us not be violent because that only sinks us to the same level of the very people we are afraid of.

I challenge you to think differently. I challenge you to click on the images of those Syrian children on your Facebook feed and look at each one and read their story and tell me that they don't deserve a chance at life.

I encourage you to comment on racists posts and challenge it. I encourage you to attempt to stop the spreading of hate and the promoting of violence.

I ask you not to group all people together and I beg you not to promote hate and violence. Those things will not serve as an end to terrorism. I do not know what will but I know that there is already so much hate in the world.

Please, if it's all we can do, let us be the ones who fill the world with a little more love and kindness.

I am lovable and capable (and so are you!)

I love fashion but I also love anything that promotes self-esteem and positive thinking in girls and women. When I came upon IALAC "I am lovable and capable", I knew it was something I wanted to share.

IALAC creates tees, tanks and sweatshirts that provide positive affirmations and empowerment via fashion for women and girls. As far as I'm concerned, with all of the negativity in the world, we can't receive enough positive messages.

 I love graphic tees as much as the next person; however, my wardrobe is severely lacking because I can never find ones with messages I love (recent post incorporating graphic tee HERE). For me, I want to wear something that captures what I'm thinking and can inspire those around me. Thankfully, IALAC offers some super cute graphic tees that serve a dual purpose: looking cute and reminding you how awesome you are.

You know how self-help gurus advocate writing love notes to yourself on your mirrors? Well, this is kind of like that. You're wearing clothing that has an important message and every time you look in the mirror you're reminded of it, that's pretty awesome.

BONUS: IALAC's clothing is all humanely made AND  they give a percentage of proceeds to help less fortunate children by providing grants for visual and performing arts.

If you're looking for clothing that looks good, makes you feel good and that sends a great message to those around you, make sure you check them out!!
Also, keep IALAC in mind when you're shopping for a unique gift this holiday season!

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**I will receive a clothing gift from IALAC in exchange for this post; however, all opinions expressed are honest and my own**

Friday, November 13, 2015

Chalkola markers review

I love trying out new products and I'm super excited to share my review of Chalkola markers with you today! Mostly, because I know you're going to love them as much as I do!

What are Chalkola markers?

Chalkola markers replace chalk and can be used on any non-porous surface (chalkboard, glass, ceramic etc). They are water-based and when used on a non-porous surface can be erased easily using a wet cloth (or glass cleaner). 

Chalkola markers are eco friendly, non-toxic and odor free. They are perfect for parents, children and teachers. 

my Chalkola review:

I was super excited to try these markers out. First, to get them ready you have to shake and press down (to get the liquid flowing). This takes a little bit for each marker (maybe 30 seconds) but you only have to do it before the first use.
Then, write on any non-porous surface. 
When you're ready to clean, just use a wet cloth or paper towel or some glass-cleaner. Wipe. That's it. That easy.
These markers were a TON of fun to play with. They really are odorless and clean up is a breeze.
My ONLY issue is that my handwriting skills aren't prettier! 

Chalkola markers are perfect for writing on mirrors. A great way to leave a message for a loved one OR for yourself ;)

You can oh-so-subtly encourage your significant other (or children) to do some housework!

Labeling treats and/or appetizers!

I only had a short-time to play with my markers (aka naptime) but I'm still thinking of ways I can use them in the future. Decorating the mirror in our front hall depending on the season (next up: Christmas), writing on car windows (for birthdays), writing on mason jars (jams, salsa, bbq sauce etc), letting the kids write on the sliding glass doors (keeps them busy and easy cleanup for mom), labeling coffee/drink cups, marking expiration on food canisters/containers, writing on any chalkboard (keeping points for boardgames), writing on any whiteboards (weekly grocery lists).... the list is endless!

The holidays are quickly approaching (yikes) and Chalkola would make a great gift for the crafters, teachers and/or children on your list!

Chalkola is offering Confessions of a Frumpy Mommy readers 20% for a limited time on both 6mm pens and 15mm markers. 

20% Off on Amazon - Use Code -> CHK20OFF

20% Off on Amazon - Use Code -> CHALK20A

**I received complementary products in exchange for this review. All thoughts and opinions expressed are honest and my own**